Empathetic children more likely to show poor health when parents are in conflict

Children who are more empathetic than their peers are more likely to show signs of poor health in the face of interparental conflict than less empathetic children, according to a new study led by researchers in the Penn State College of Health and Human Development.

Led by Associate Professor Hannah Schreier, researchers used survey- and blood sample-derived data from home visits with 106 children between 7 and 9 years old and their parents participating in Family Foundations, an initiative led by co-author Mark Feinberg, research professor in the Edna Bennett Pierce Prevention Research Center (PRC), that evaluates the effectiveness of a perinatal co parenting intervention for first-time parents. 

For children in middle childhood, AP Schreier said, the family home and parents are important, so observing conflict between the parents can be stressful. 

Prior research from that on-going study shows that parents who took Family Foundations classes had more positive family relationships and experienced less conflict across the family, as well as between parents or children.

“Empathy can have positive and negative impacts. … Our work adds to a growing literature showing that being more empathetic may have adverse consequences on your health,” she added. 

The surveys assessed both the children’s perception of interparental conflict, including whether they felt threatened and whether they felt they were at fault when their parents fought. The children also self-reported their empathy, including whether they felt sorry when other people were sad and whether they cared about the feelings of others. The parents provided ratings of overall child health on a scale from excellent to poor.

The researchers also analyzed C-reactive protein (CRP) and interleukin-6 (IL-6) levels in blood samples collected from the children. Increased levels of CRP and IL-6 indicate higher levels of chronic inflammation in the body.

Inflammation is a key aspect of the body’s immune response. Acute, or short-term, inflammation is an important response to a specific injury and can help the body to heal. Chronic inflammation does not have a specific source or injury causing it. This chronic, background inflammation, which isn’t necessarily concerning in the short-term, is related to long-term negative health effects when elevated over a long period of time. 

Prior research has linked chronic inflammation to cardiovascular disease risk, diabetes and certain types of cancer, among other things.

From these self-reported and biological measures, the researchers determined that children who reported being more empathetic had higher levels of CRP, which is suggestive of greater levels of chronic inflammation, and worse parent-reported overall health when perceiving more interparental conflict.

Critically, the researchers said more empathetic children did not report greater levels of conflict in the home. Additionally, children reported on regular, daily conflict that did not rise to the level of violence or domestic violence.

AP Schreier said it is particularly important to have these results for younger children, who had largely been omitted from previous research on possible physiological consequences of empathy and conflict. For this age group, the results also have implications that extend far beyond the household.

“These results raise interesting questions about children’s home and school environments,” she continued. 

“Empathy is important, especially at this stage of life, but it doesn’t make sense to push more empathy teaching toward all kids. Some kids (sic.) might need help understanding when it is okay to set boundaries and how to find a balance between being aware of how others feel, but not taking on every little thing that happens.”

“The main message in our society is that empathy is good, and it’s beneficial to us to be surrounded by people who are more empathetic,” she continued. “But empathy can have positive and negative impacts. We don’t talk a lot about what it means for the person who is more empathetic and what it is like taking on everyone else’s emotions. Our work adds to a growing literature showing that being more empathetic may have adverse consequences on your health.”

Access the findings here.