Caring for children after community tragedy

As the community comes to terms with the recent tragic events at Bondi Beach, our thoughts are with everyone affected, including those in the local area and across Australia who may be experiencing grief, fear or uncertainty.

For young children, such events can be confusing and unsettling, even if they are not directly involved. In early learning settings, educators and centre leaders play a vital role in restoring a sense of safety, security and emotional wellbeing for children in their care.

Written for early childhood professionals, this article outlines compassionate approaches to supporting young children during times of tragedy.

If you haven’t already, you may find this companion piece useful: Supporting children after trauma: how to talk about distressing events.

The foundation of trauma-informed care is creating a space where children feel safe and supported. Re-establishing daily routines, providing access to familiar educators, and maintaining consistency across the day helps reduce anxiety and support regulation.

Children benefit from predictable rhythms and trusted relationships, especially during times of uncertainty.

When children ask questions, respond in developmentally appropriate language. Avoid detailed or graphic descriptions. Instead, focus on safety and the presence of caring adults.

“Something sad happened in another part of the city. Helpers are there. You are safe here with us.”

Be honest but reassuring, and avoid making promises or assumptions about future events.

Children process information in different ways. Some may talk, others may play, draw or act out scenarios. Some may not show an immediate response at all. Let the child guide the depth and pace of discussion.

Avoid pushing children to talk, instead, create space for quiet comfort and connection through play and presence.

Creative experiences such as drawing, storytelling, sensory play and movement offer children safe, non-verbal ways to explore big feelings. Use books about emotions and safety to scaffold gentle conversations.

Provide warm, responsive environments where children can explore themes of care, kindness and connection.

Children are highly perceptive. Exposure to news reports or overheard conversations can increase distress or misunderstanding. Ensure news updates, phone calls or staff debriefs take place away from children.

Encourage families to do the same, especially during routines like meals and bedtime.

Educators are key emotional role models. By remaining calm, composed and grounded, educators send powerful signals of safety and reassurance to children.

If staff are impacted themselves, leaders should offer support through team debriefs, supervision or employee assistance programs. Caring for children requires caring for those who care for them.

Remind children, in age-appropriate ways, that many people help others in times of sadness or fear. Reinforce messages about kindness, caring and safety, and highlight the many ways communities come together.

Resources for educators and families

• Be You – Responding to critical incidents
• Emerging Minds – Supporting children after traumatic events
• Raising Children Network – Talking to children about traumatic events

Trusted relationships are the most powerful buffer against trauma in early childhood. Through calm, consistent and caring environments, early learning professionals help children feel safe, supported and seen, every day, especially in times of crisis.

When to seek additional help

If a child’s distress persists or begins to interfere with their everyday life, families are encouraged to seek professional support. This can include speaking with a general practitioner, maternal and child health nurse, paediatrician or a mental health professional with experience in child development.

There are also dedicated support services that can provide advice and counselling:

• Lifeline – 13 11 14
• Kids Helpline – 1800 55 1800
• Parentline – 13 22 89
• beyondblue – 1300 22 4636
• GriefLine – 1300 845 745
• Bravehearts – 1800 272 821

For additional information, visit Victoria’s Better Health Channel