Small ways to teach babies and toddlers body safety and consent in early learning

In early childhood education and care (ECEC), the concept of consent is often misunderstood as something too advanced for babies and toddlers. Yet, foundational learning around body safety, agency and respectful relationships begins in the earliest months of life, and early learning settings are uniquely placed to nurture it.

• Seeking permission before touching: Saying “I’m going to pick you up now” or “Can I wipe your nose?” gives children a moment of preparation and models respectful communication.
• Acknowledging refusals: If a child turns away or says “no”, educators can affirm that response by pausing, validating their feeling and explaining the next step: “I hear you don’t want your nappy changed, but your body needs to be clean. I’ll be gentle and quick.”
• Using correct anatomical language: Naming all body parts, including genitals, accurately and without shame supports body awareness and reduces vulnerability.
• Offering real choices: Encouraging toddlers to choose between two shirts or decide how they want to be comforted (“Would you like a cuddle or to sit nearby?”) builds agency and confidence.

• Slow down and engage with each child during caregiving routines.
• Explain what they are going to do before doing it.
• Wait for the child’s non-verbal or verbal response.
• Maintain consistent, predictable routines that support trust and emotional safety.